Holiday Harmony: 10 Ways to Protect Your Peace

When the outside world is challenging and chaotic, that may be the best time to go inside to find our anchors and our peace. With that in mind, here are some simple reminders to amplify the good and make this holiday one that recharges the soul.

1. Embrace Imperfection: Don’t try to make things perfect – there’s no such thing. If you are hosting, give people jobs, like: you set the table, you make the salad – it doesn’t have to be all on your shoulders. Choose music that keeps things rolling.

2. Set Clear Boundaries:Consider the “No Talking Politics” rule. Many families are deeply divided, so let everyone know that if a topic is inflammatory, it is not to be introduced.

3. Know Your Triggers: Understand what or who sets you off and prepare your exit strategy. If that situation comes up, you can redirect the conversation. Plan what you’ll say, like “Oh, I know we used to talk about that, but that topic is no longer open for discussion.” You can always just say, “I’m stepping outside for some fresh air.”

4. Manage Your Expectations: Remember: there are things you can’t control. If great aunt Sally, or any other relative is acting out, manage your expectations. You aren’t going to change their perspectives in one day. You can’t control what they say or do, but you can control how much you let it in.

5. Choose Your Company Wisely:  Spend less time with those who drain your energy and more with those you resonate with. That’s also in your control. Protect your peace.

6. Prioritize Self-Care: Have breakfast so your energy doesn’t crash. Break up the day with some time to exercise and some time to recharge, even if it’s just a few moments to recenter.

7. Plan Fun Activities: Engage everyone with enjoyable activities, like a family walk or a game that a bunch of you enjoy.

8. Focus on Presence, Not Presents: At the end of the day, you probably won’t even remember the gift, but you will remember a warm interaction and how good someone made you feel.

9. Express Gratitude: Think of what and who you are grateful for and let them know. This is good for any holiday, and really any day at all.

10. Lead with Kindness: Others may annoy you; everyone looks at life through their own lens. But look for the best in each other. Put aside pettiness or awkward humor, and lead with kindness. You can’t control the outcome, but you can be true to your best self, and that always feels good.